Mothers were never meant to do it alone.
It takes a village.
Before I became a mum, I ran my own Myotherapy clinic and specialised in helping women with their pre and postnatal health for years. I thought that when my time came to be a mum I’d somehow know exactly what to do.
When I was pregnant with my son, I spent so much time and energy preparing for the birth - I read the books, enrolled in a birth class, and attended prenatal yoga. But I didn’t put the same time and energy into what would happen after my son was in my arms. I assumed breastfeeding would naturally “just work”, that my body would be “fine” to return back to work in a week or so, and that I could learn everything I needed to know about parenting from my mum and older sister.
Well, it didn’t really happen like that! After my son arrived, I was left to do it on my own. The supports that I planned to lean on weren't available to me, with my husband having started his new role at work, he wasn't able to take leave, my old sister was busy tending to my newborn niece and my mum was overseas for several weeks. I felt isolated, overwhelmed and out of my depth. I turned to online forums and I was inundated with conflicting advice and overwhelmed with all the things I “could” or “should” be doing. Breastfeeding didn’t “just work”, in fact, I was fairly close to throwing in the towel the first week. Sleep deprivation and pure exhaustion took its toll on not only me but my relationship with my husband. All the while trying to process my traumatic birth.
I had imagined my fourth trimester to be this beautiful bonding experience, but the reality was so far from it. I had completely underestimated how challenging it would be, and I felt like nobody had really given me an honest, raw ‘heads up’ about all that needed to be considered, prepared for, and embraced after childbirth. I was frustrated at myself for not having asked more questions about the stuff that was really important, but you don’t know what you don’t know! I was so tired that it never occurred to me to ask for support.
And despite all my years of experience in working with mums, it turns out I was utterly unprepared for the massive transformation of motherhood.
Eventually, I began to emerge from the haze that is life with a newborn, and I found myself ready to discover what my life as a mother would look like. I was left wondering “why hadn’t anyone told me what to expect”? My fourth trimester was what I should have prepared for, and I was confronted with similar stories from the women in my mothers’ group. It wasn't just me, we all weren't told.
It showed me just how important it is for women to be supported through the entire journey of becoming a mother, from first to the fourth trimester and beyond.
In 2019 I welcomed my daughter, and I put everything I had learned to use and my experience was completely different. I had both a beautiful hypnobirth and healing postpartum period. I utilised my village and in doing that, allowed myself time and space to recover from birth, to get to know my beautiful new baby, and to transition into becoming a mother of two. I proved to myself the value of not only being prepared and gathering a supportive village for birth but also how beneficial and transformative it is to prepare for postpartum and to plan for care after birth.
And now I am a mama on a mission to help support women through their pregnancy and prepare them for the fourth trimester and beyond because becoming a mother is about so much more than giving birth and taking care of your newborn. It’s about birthing and raising newborn mothers too.
- 2022 Bachelor of Nursing/Bachelor of Midwifery- Currently completing
- 2017 Postpartum Doula Training, Newborn Mothers Collective
- 2014 A NurtureLife® Registered Practitioner of Pregnancy Massage
- 2014 Practitioner of pregnancy massage
- 2014 Certificate of pregnancy massage
- 2012 Advanced Diploma of Myotherapy
- 2012 Advanced Diploma of Sports Therapy
- 2010 Diploma Remedial Massage
Recent Continuing Education:
- 2020 Basic Skills in Perinatal Mental Health-COPE
- 2020 Perinatal Mental Health-PANDA
- 2020 Birth Trauma Training for Birth Workers by Dr Erin Bowe
- 2018 Pelvic Floors – Pregnancy and Beyond-Australian College of Midwives
- 2017 Supporting Women to Breastfeed-Australian College of Midwives
- 2017 Postnatal Care-Australian College of Midwives
- 2015 Certificate Pregnancy Exercise for Optimal Outcomes
- 2015 Certificate Post Pregnancy Exercise
- 2015 Certificate Nutrition for Fertility, Pregnancy and Lactation
- 2014 Advanced workshop: Postnatal massage
- 2014 Advanced workshop: partner training & massage for labour
- 2011 Certificate in Dry Needling
- 2011 Certificate Manual Lymphatic Drainage Massage
- AHPRA Registered Health Professional
- Australian Natural Therapists Association
- Doula Network Australia
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